One wrong step at the workplace can put a brake on your ambitions. Here’s how to avert professional disasters. Whether you've snagged your first job or shifted to a new one recently, you need to follow work etiquette. For, a wrong word or a shoddy presentation may be akin to committing a career hara-kiri. Here are the habits and attitudes that are a strict no-no.
1 I don’t need to be punctual: Timing is essential. You're a professional now and a 'sorry, my brother spilt milk over my homework' excuse isn't going to work. Your assignment should be finished before the deadline, with enough time to spare, so that you can polish it. Unlike college, a 'C' grade-even once-does matter. If you disappoint your seniors, getting another chance is tough. If your office doesn't run on a 9-to-5 schedule, ensure that you have a fixed time for coming in and leaving, so you can be available during those hours.
2 I want everything, now: Instant gratification may be your buzzword, but it's not going to work at office. You cannot accumulate five years worth of experience in one year, nor can you get the hefty salaries your senior colleagues do. You will only get what your employers believe you're worth. "In the initial stages, don't mix career and money. Your priority should be the job profile based on your capabilities, which will help you hone your skills and grow. Once you're established, the money will come," says Nidhi Gaur, head, HR, Wiley India. Just putting in your best may not be enough. Your efforts will also have to be fruitful. "If you expect more compensation, the worth of the individual should increase along with the cost," says Sunil Goel, CEO, GlobalHunt, an HR firm.
3 This is all I’m going to do: If you stick rigidly to your job description, you may miss out on opportunities to be noticed. Take up tasks beyond the routine ones, especially those that can demonstrate your untapped talents. This also proves that you're willing to take initiative. If you are new, you may get saddled with jobs that others don't want or hours nobody else is willing to put in. If you grumble at being given extra work, it may put off your superiors.
4 I’m the only one who made it a success: No man is an island, especially not in crowded cubicles. In an office, you need to work as a team. If you do well, give credit where it's due, especially to your juniors. Even if you don't get along with someone, be polite. There's no place for anger or tantrums at the workplace. Remember, your electronic mails are being sent through your employer's server, so badmouthing someone on mail or chats in the office could lead to an embarrassing fiasco.
5 What’s a network? Even a genius could hit a roadblock. This is when your network of peers will come to your rescue as you can take their advice. It also helps you stay abreast of the latest issues in your field. Keep in touch with college mates, mingle during conferences and functions, and join a professional networking site.
6 I know everything there is to know: No job is secure forever. The business landscape is changing constantly and if you don't want to be a dinosaur, you'll have to upgrade your skills regularly. You need to stay on a par with colleagues and others vying for your job. Don't expect past accomplishments to suffice. Learn constantly, especially from your mistakes. If a senior corrects you, don't sulk or complain. You'll not only exasperate your boss, but end up repeating your mistake.
7 I’m irreplaceable, I deserve that promotion: If you believe you are the only one who can do the job right, back your conviction with accomplishments. Before you jump at the chance to be promoted, ask yourself: am I prepared for it? A promotion not only means more professional responsibilities, but also changes in personal life. Make sure you are ready to shoulder these. If you aren't, the step may backfire and destroy chances of future promotions. Don't promise to get something done without ensuring that it is achievable.
News Article in Times of India, on 11th April 2011 by Namrata Dadwal
Monday, April 11
Thursday, March 3
Lets be "Me"....
When I was a kid, my mother always used to tell me to become like my cousin, who is more intelligent then me. When I started my school, my sports teacher wants me to be like Sachin and excel in cricket. When I joined college, I was always given examples of my other school friends who have joined better institutes. Even now, I am always been told about the success stories of my family members who are outside India.
But I am a Success… in my own eyes. And I know I am living my life… ok.. Trying to live my life. But I am sure not just spending time on earth and wasting the wonderful years. I am learning from each moment and growing my horizons.
The below article in today’s Times of India encourage individualism, being Unique. That’s what I have been celebrating since long.. being unique, being ME…… and believe me it’s great feeling to be “ME”.
But I am a Success… in my own eyes. And I know I am living my life… ok.. Trying to live my life. But I am sure not just spending time on earth and wasting the wonderful years. I am learning from each moment and growing my horizons.
The below article in today’s Times of India encourage individualism, being Unique. That’s what I have been celebrating since long.. being unique, being ME…… and believe me it’s great feeling to be “ME”.
If you pause for a moment to consider that there never has been nor will there ever be anyone else exactly like you, you will know why being yourself is more important than anything else; and you will be able to sidestep the very commonly prevalent fear or pressure that traps us into blind conformity.
The opposite of courage in our society, psychologist Rollo May said, is not cowardice; it is conformity.
Being inspired by someone and learning from their example is wonderful; but if we were supposed to be exactly like that someone, we would have been created with all of her personal qualities, also circumstances, potential, limitations too. Instead, each of us is born into a specific time and place, with a unique combination of a certain set of talents, and the potential to add or enhance all that, in order to fulfil our individual mission in life.
We have all been taught to measure ourselves against the example of other, greater, more successful beings. We are inspired by them and want to follow their example…but we can become so obsessed with the need to live like someone else, look, teach, grow successful and become rich like someone else, that before we know it, we cease to be ourselves.
In the film The Legend of Bagger Vance, Bagger Vance volunteers to be caddy for the has-been, written-off golfer Junuh in an important tournament. At a pivotal point in the movie, he tells the indifferent player, "Inside each and every one of us is our one true authentic swing. Something we were born with. Something that's ours and ours alone. Something that can't be learned. Something that's got to be remembered." It suggests finding our authentic self, our special place in the world, our special way of doing things, our special things to do, that absolutely no one else can.
Once, an old Hassidic story goes, the great teacher Zusia came to his followers, his eyes were red with tears, and his face was pale with fear.
"Zusia, what's the matter? You look frightened!" "The other day, i had a vision. In it, i learned of the question that the angels will ask me when i stand at the Gates of Heaven."
The opposite of courage in our society, psychologist Rollo May said, is not cowardice; it is conformity.
Being inspired by someone and learning from their example is wonderful; but if we were supposed to be exactly like that someone, we would have been created with all of her personal qualities, also circumstances, potential, limitations too. Instead, each of us is born into a specific time and place, with a unique combination of a certain set of talents, and the potential to add or enhance all that, in order to fulfil our individual mission in life.
We have all been taught to measure ourselves against the example of other, greater, more successful beings. We are inspired by them and want to follow their example…but we can become so obsessed with the need to live like someone else, look, teach, grow successful and become rich like someone else, that before we know it, we cease to be ourselves.
In the film The Legend of Bagger Vance, Bagger Vance volunteers to be caddy for the has-been, written-off golfer Junuh in an important tournament. At a pivotal point in the movie, he tells the indifferent player, "Inside each and every one of us is our one true authentic swing. Something we were born with. Something that's ours and ours alone. Something that can't be learned. Something that's got to be remembered." It suggests finding our authentic self, our special place in the world, our special way of doing things, our special things to do, that absolutely no one else can.
Once, an old Hassidic story goes, the great teacher Zusia came to his followers, his eyes were red with tears, and his face was pale with fear.
"Zusia, what's the matter? You look frightened!" "The other day, i had a vision. In it, i learned of the question that the angels will ask me when i stand at the Gates of Heaven."
The followers were puzzled. "Zusia, you are pious. You are scholarly and humble. You have helped so many of us. What question about your life could be so terrifying that you would be frightened to answer it?" Zusia turned his gaze to heaven. "I have learned that the angels will not ask me, 'Why weren't you a Moses, leading your people out of slavery?'" His followers persisted. "So, what will they ask you?" "And i have learned," Zusia sighed, "that the angels will not ask me, 'Why weren't you a Joshua, leading your people into the Promised Land?'" His worried followers demanded, "But what will they ask you?" "They will say to me, 'Zusia, there was only one thing that no power of heaven or earth could have prevented you from becoming.' They will say, 'Zusia, why weren't you Zusia?'"
Of course you should be inspired by the examples of others and let their lives motivate you to reach your fullest potential; but ultimately you must become the best [place your own name here] possible. Or, as Oscar Wilde quipped: Be yourself; everyone else is already taken.
Source: Times Of India , Dated 3rd March 2011
Monday, February 7
Know Yourself - Workshop
“Know Yourself” workshop was conducted at Rai Business School by Jeevan Deep Sehgal. The workshop was attended by more than 75 MBA students. The workshop started by asking all participants to sing a song from movie Rangeela, which helped not only in involving all participants but also helped in creating the impression that the concept like self awareness is not something very difficult or alien to day to day life. Importance of self awareness has been discussed so many times, at various occasions, even in the movie songs.
“ME THE STAR”, activity encouraged participants to think about their strengths and the reasons why they feel it as strengths. It also asked participants to reflect on various positive situations of their life and the various achievements. This helped all participants in affirming their individual positive image. Importance of Self esteem and positive thinking was also discussed in the workshop.
Various ways to build self awareness was discussed. “Challenge Rancho” was another activity to help participants in goal formation. Various statements and questions helped participants in understanding the present life state and where they would like to see themselves in ten years.
Different types of personality were discussed to provide better clarity on differences in various individuals. The session end with question answer round where students clarified their doubts.
“ME THE STAR”, activity encouraged participants to think about their strengths and the reasons why they feel it as strengths. It also asked participants to reflect on various positive situations of their life and the various achievements. This helped all participants in affirming their individual positive image. Importance of Self esteem and positive thinking was also discussed in the workshop.
Various ways to build self awareness was discussed. “Challenge Rancho” was another activity to help participants in goal formation. Various statements and questions helped participants in understanding the present life state and where they would like to see themselves in ten years.
Different types of personality were discussed to provide better clarity on differences in various individuals. The session end with question answer round where students clarified their doubts.
Wednesday, February 2
employees get showered with Money @ LG
I was definitely amused by this news article in today's ET "LG Electronics gives 200% and 700% of basic salaries to employees"
LG knows how to motivate its employees, and it motivates big time.With the announcement of the bonus which can be upto 700% of the basic salary of employees, LG has also informed the market about its own performance. I must appreciate COO, YV Verma for the employee friendly policies of LG.
This bonus includes the following
- Two half-yearly performance incentives,
- Diwali bonus,
- Post-Diwali bonus,
- LG Birthday Bonus and
- Retention Bonus
Believing in the motto, "life's good", LG paid bonus even during recession when other companies did not pay. I am sure, this small act of paying bonus irrespective of the market growth won loyalty of employees, which is not so easy to earn. I would definitely say, Happy employees make happy companies. And LG cares about happiness of its employees.
In india, the monetary rewards still score much more than non monetary rewards. Any day, employees would love to get hard cash instead of a fully paid trip to Malaysia or Thailand. Traditional indian values of saving money, is still not forgotten by all. And even employees who love to spend, gets satisfaction by spending money themselves, rather than just getting something for free.
One more good thing about LG is not only appreciating the results but also the risk taking abilities of the employees, and taking up challenging initiatives.
Source:
http://economictimes.indiatimes.com/news/news-by-industry/jobs/bonus-lg-electronics-gives-200-and-700-of-basic-salaries-to-employees/articleshow/7400473.cms
Tuesday, January 11
Indian teacher introduces kabaddi to US classroom
Houston: An Indian school teacher has brought his country’s culture into the classrooms of American students by introducing kabaddi.
Ajaykumar Nair, who teaches English language and literature, has come to Johnsburg, a town with a population of 2,450 in the mountains of the Adirondacks, on a six-month-long Fullbright Teacher Exchange grant programme.
In his class, the students, a mix of sophomores, juniors and seniors at Johnsburg Central School, remove their shoes, watch their instructor and try to grab the rules of kabaddi, a popular team sport in India.
Students were advised to play barefoot to gain better traction on the gym floor.
Since September, the students have also taken an elective on Indian culture, which has introduced them to literature, music, dance, food and games of the country.
This is Nair’s first visit to the US. He has been introduced to Italian food, football and snow.
While Nair said his experience in Johnsburg has been positive, the hardest adjustment has been to the weather.
“I was lucky that I came here. This community at Johnsburg has been very good.
They are my family now. When I leave, I will miss them,” said Nair.
Nair will be here till January 28, after which will return to India.
“It’s been great getting to know him as a person,” Kevin Connor, a senior taking the course in Indian culture, said of Nair.
“Getting to learn the Indian culture and food has been amazing,” he added. PTI
Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/indians-abroad/Indian-teacher-introduces-kabaddi-to-US-classroom/articleshow/7251038.cms
Ajaykumar Nair, who teaches English language and literature, has come to Johnsburg, a town with a population of 2,450 in the mountains of the Adirondacks, on a six-month-long Fullbright Teacher Exchange grant programme.
In his class, the students, a mix of sophomores, juniors and seniors at Johnsburg Central School, remove their shoes, watch their instructor and try to grab the rules of kabaddi, a popular team sport in India.
Students were advised to play barefoot to gain better traction on the gym floor.
Since September, the students have also taken an elective on Indian culture, which has introduced them to literature, music, dance, food and games of the country.
This is Nair’s first visit to the US. He has been introduced to Italian food, football and snow.
While Nair said his experience in Johnsburg has been positive, the hardest adjustment has been to the weather.
“I was lucky that I came here. This community at Johnsburg has been very good.
They are my family now. When I leave, I will miss them,” said Nair.
Nair will be here till January 28, after which will return to India.
“It’s been great getting to know him as a person,” Kevin Connor, a senior taking the course in Indian culture, said of Nair.
“Getting to learn the Indian culture and food has been amazing,” he added. PTI
Source : http://timesofindia.indiatimes.com/world/indians-abroad/Indian-teacher-introduces-kabaddi-to-US-classroom/articleshow/7251038.cms
Monday, December 20
Inspiring Story - teamplay & fairplay
This is the story that i have read in today's newspaper under speaking tree, written by Sudhamahi Regunathan. This story is told the Tainos, the indigenous people of Puerto Rico Island to their children showing them the way to good life.
I am mentioning here the three lessons of good life, being highlighted in this story.
1. Your size doesn't matter, your voice and words are more important. Means, it doesn't matter whether you are rich or poor, you are having special powers or not, what matters is that people should respect your words, and you should speak good. Good speech is always appreciated by everyone.
2. Teamwork always wins. Teamwork can defeat an opponent of any size.
3. Whatever said and done, fairplay should be the rule defining your life. You should not do anything which is against your own personal ethics and values. You should lead a life which is an example to others, and you should follow the rules, which can be all or any combination of natural laws, universal laws & your own values.
The story goes like this......The animals had taken to easy life and were all becoming fat. This became a cause for concern because they could not move about at all. Life came to a standstill. Queen Iguaca, the parrot that ruled the forest with care, was worried. No progress was made because of the sheer laziness of her jungle mates. And so, the Tainos would tell their children, never be lazy. It will take you nowhere.
Queen Iguaca wondered whom to consult. She spoke with the agile and evermoving wind who looked in amazement at the bloated condition of the animals, some of which were special to Puerto Rico: the lizard was so huge that it could no longer climb trees, a species of snake was so fat that it barely slithered, the giant toad that was as big as a bull, and a bull that was worried to see a toad catching up and so ate more – and the coqui. The coqui is a small frog which is different from others of its species, not only because of its very small size but also because it does not have webbed feet.
The queen announced a race with an attractive award for the winner, to motivate the animals to exercise and return to shape. The animals were excited. Each dreamt of getting the award. The coqui, however, was small anyway and it found it had no chance of winning against the other larger animals. But the coqui needed a voice desperately. To be small-sized and without a voice is a curse… another lesson to be remembered, said the grandparent Taino. They had to overcome it.
The community of coquis decided to work together, for they felt that it was only in teamwork that success be achieved. A senior coqui suggested a plan of action. So good was the plan that they won! But there was a problem – that other contestants pointed out. It was not entirely fair play. As in a relay race, the coquis had positioned themselves at different points so that each time one of the bigger animals shoved them out of the race, another stepped in. That’s how they had won.
The queen considered the case and announced the verdict. The coquis were the winners because they had worked together as a team, strategised and won. And so they would be given a voice. But since there was an element of unfair play, they would get their voice only after sunset and till sunrise.
Even today the coquis sing every night in Puerto Rico. They jump up on to the branches of trees at dusk and call: “Co-kee, co-kee” and that’s how they got their name. They make such a loud but very musical noise that one would think an amplifier had been attached to their voice box. The coquis begin singing with the onset of dusk through the night till the first rays of the sun fall on the land. They remind everyone that team spirit is great but anything done unfairly never sees the light of day.
Today when the Tainos have been long gone and the Puerto Ricans have experienced different cultures with the coming of the Spanish, Africans, Chinese and Americans, the coqui, symbol of the island, still sings for them every night, with the same message: Be one and be fair.
Tuesday, November 2
Face It To Change It
Sometimes small incidents in life leaves you with big learnings. Such an incident happened today morning.
I am sure, you all have seen one for sorrow, many times... Whenever i see one, i try to avoid looking at its direction, as if even the sight of the bird would bring some bad luck. Can not help my superstition. But today morning, when i saw one for sorrow, i turned back and to look at it again...
And you believe me, i saw one more bird, which was behind the first one, and hence my one for sorrow turned into two for joy. If i would not have turned back to have a relook at one for sorrow, and thought of avoiding it, i would miss the chance to see two for joy.
It immediately strikes me, how we try to avoid sufferings, and bad luck in life. But if we are strong enough, and we face the problem headon, then we have the power to change any adversity of liife in a positive experience.
Its only when we are scared to face the situation, the situation haunts us. Hence we should never let the situation rule us. But lets Face it and change it..
Wednesday, August 18
IT Services leading the employment numbers
Tata Consultancy Services is the number one employer in India with 1,63,700 employees as on June 30th, 2010 and the number two spot goes to IBM. With more than 50,000 employees working in the BPO arm of IBM, IBM Daksh, total employee count of IBM is estimated at 1.30 lakhs
Infosys, Wipro and Cognizant are other IT services companies leading the list with maximum number of employees. Tata Motors, a manufacturing company on number 8 with 24,000 employees to be mentioned in the list.
Infosys, Wipro and Cognizant are other IT services companies leading the list with maximum number of employees. Tata Motors, a manufacturing company on number 8 with 24,000 employees to be mentioned in the list.
The details are mentioned in a news report by Times of India.
Tuesday, July 6
Inspirational Article from the net
This is a very nice article i found on internet. I am not sure, who has written this. But this is really inspiring.
One day I decided to quit...I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD.
"GOD", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me...
"Look around", GOD said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"
"Yes", I replied.
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." GOD said.
"In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. "
"In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo see. I would not quit." GOD said.
"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." GOD said to me.
"Did you know, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"
"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others." GOD said.
"The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."
"Your time will come", GOD said to me. "You will rise high" "How high should I rise?" I asked.
"How high will the bamboo rise?" GOD asked in return.
"As high as it can?" I questioned
"Yes." GOD said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can." I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that GOD will never give up on you.
GOD will never give up on you
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed" Keep Smiling
One day I decided to quit...I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with GOD.
"GOD", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me...
"Look around", GOD said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"
"Yes", I replied.
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor. Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo." GOD said.
"In year three there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. "
"In year four, again, there was nothing from the bamboo see. I would not quit." GOD said.
"Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth. Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant...But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle." GOD said to me.
"Did you know, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots?"
"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others." GOD said.
"The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet they both make the forest beautiful."
"Your time will come", GOD said to me. "You will rise high" "How high should I rise?" I asked.
"How high will the bamboo rise?" GOD asked in return.
"As high as it can?" I questioned
"Yes." GOD said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can." I left the forest and bring back this story. I hope these words can help you see that GOD will never give up on you.
GOD will never give up on you
"Life is not a problem to be solved, but a gift to be enjoyed" Keep Smiling
Tuesday, June 15
Golden Egg Technique
When you purify your centre, you become receptive to higher vibrations. Creativity happens in this space. Carnatic music composer Thyagaraja discovered a new raga by listening to a bee. A monk observing a snake and a crane fighting discovered the martial art, Tai Chi.
There’s a technique called the golden egg technique: Imagine that there is an egg and in it there exists gold. The gold is hidden inside the egg. Treat every problem you encounter as one such egg. Imagine that there is a golden opportunity hidden inside every problem. Whenever you are faced with a problem, don’t lose hope. Instead of getting disheartened, try to understand that it is only an egg with precious gold tucked away deep inside. Delve deep into the problem and recognise golden opportunity. This attitude will invoke creativity in you.
There are many more ways of dealing positively with problems. Try this. When you come face to face with a problem, think of at least 20 ways of dealing with it. Play a game. Write down all the possible solutions. OK, now that you’ve written down 20 options, choose five out of the 20 and begin working on them. With those five kinds of solutions, find 20 ways of fulfilling them. Ask your friends to give ideas. The mother of creativity is the attempt to generate ideas. Play with it.
All these methods can be applied provided you remember not to view a problem as a pain. If you do so, then your hurt body will increase and you will pass on your pain to your children. Are you distressed that your son is lazy? Apply the golden egg technique. In the problem of your lazy son, there is gold hidden... an opportunity hidden. Treat it as a great opportunity to study the reason as to why he is lazy. Be an anthropologist and study the causes of his laziness. By doing this you are in a proactive state and this state of your being will motivate your son.
Next, apply the second method. See 20 ways to make your son active. Take help from friends, as this will help in expanding your ideas. Creativity opens up when there are ideas. Include your son in the game plan and make him your teammate. You will observe the inspiring energy that you create and as a result your family will have a meaningful goal.
Use transformational vocabulary. Use empowering language. There are no winners in an argument. Hence use words wisely. When someone expresses something, try and understand their point of view instead of branding and labelling them as something or other. The moment you brand them, you will see only the labels. As a result you miss seeing the person.
Stop treating differences as conflicts. View them as points of view. Learn to appreciate variety. Appreciate differences rather than viewing them as pain. The moment you relate to differences as pain, you will experience them as pain. View differences as creative versions and you will feel positive energy flow through you.
There’s a technique called the golden egg technique: Imagine that there is an egg and in it there exists gold. The gold is hidden inside the egg. Treat every problem you encounter as one such egg. Imagine that there is a golden opportunity hidden inside every problem. Whenever you are faced with a problem, don’t lose hope. Instead of getting disheartened, try to understand that it is only an egg with precious gold tucked away deep inside. Delve deep into the problem and recognise golden opportunity. This attitude will invoke creativity in you.
There are many more ways of dealing positively with problems. Try this. When you come face to face with a problem, think of at least 20 ways of dealing with it. Play a game. Write down all the possible solutions. OK, now that you’ve written down 20 options, choose five out of the 20 and begin working on them. With those five kinds of solutions, find 20 ways of fulfilling them. Ask your friends to give ideas. The mother of creativity is the attempt to generate ideas. Play with it.
All these methods can be applied provided you remember not to view a problem as a pain. If you do so, then your hurt body will increase and you will pass on your pain to your children. Are you distressed that your son is lazy? Apply the golden egg technique. In the problem of your lazy son, there is gold hidden... an opportunity hidden. Treat it as a great opportunity to study the reason as to why he is lazy. Be an anthropologist and study the causes of his laziness. By doing this you are in a proactive state and this state of your being will motivate your son.
Next, apply the second method. See 20 ways to make your son active. Take help from friends, as this will help in expanding your ideas. Creativity opens up when there are ideas. Include your son in the game plan and make him your teammate. You will observe the inspiring energy that you create and as a result your family will have a meaningful goal.
Use transformational vocabulary. Use empowering language. There are no winners in an argument. Hence use words wisely. When someone expresses something, try and understand their point of view instead of branding and labelling them as something or other. The moment you brand them, you will see only the labels. As a result you miss seeing the person.
Stop treating differences as conflicts. View them as points of view. Learn to appreciate variety. Appreciate differences rather than viewing them as pain. The moment you relate to differences as pain, you will experience them as pain. View differences as creative versions and you will feel positive energy flow through you.
source : Times Of India - 15th June 2010. The Speaking Tree - Discourse: Swami Sukhabodhananda
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